DEAR MASSI, I got married at the age of 15 to a man who was 23 yrs old.

I was left in Pakistan for a year and then I came back in July 2003. On Eid day I was told his visa had been completed and he is coming over. I am not happy at all and I don't know what to do.

Can you please help me. I dont want anyone from my family to know.

T

Bradford

MASSI SAYS,

It sounds like you find it difficult to speak to your mother and father so telling your parents may be out of the question.

Therefore is there anyone else you can speak to like an auntie or cousin?

If not it may seem no-one is on your side at the moment but you have the power to dictate your future.

Your parents have acted illegally and you have a right to voice your concerns.

For confidential advice you could speak to social services or the police in your area.

They will take your views seriously and if you do not wish this man to come over you can put a halt to it straight away.

It can be difficult when your family is involved but your feelings come first and your parents should understand that.