Dear Massi, I know my wife has a difficult relationship with my mum but I recently found out how much my wife hates her.
I saw a message on my wife’s phone that she had sent to her sister. I never check her phone, but the phone was beeping so much that I thought there might have been some sort of emergency.
The messages showed my wife had been referring to my mum as “that buddhi churayl.”
I’m so hurt that my wife could have such a cruel streak inside her that I never knew existed until I saw those messages.
I don’t know what to do.
Massi says, It is only natural that you were alarmed to discover the nature of the text messages between your wife and her sister.
You have already indicated that you are aware that there is some friction between your wife and your mother.
Understand that your wife was sending private messages to her sister that were never intended to be read by you.
Talk to you wife and explain how you felt when you read the messages.
Tell her that you understand the complexities between her relationship with your mother and try and find a compromise where your wife feels she has your support.
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