Lydia Bright has said she's ready to move on after her split from James "Arg" Argent.
The Only Way Is Essex stars met in Marbella for the first time in more than a year.
Lydia, 24, who is back on screen on the scripted reality show after a two-year break, told the Daily Mirror: "I just want to reach a happy medium where we can be in the same room and not be biting each other's heads off.
"We've argued so much. There have been so many harsh words said."
Arg has apologised for cheating on Lydia with fellow star Amy Childs.
Lydia told the newspaper that she is prepared to bury the hatchet with her ex, but not with Amy.
"I was very upset about it, naturally," she said. "I was more hurt because I had an inkling it was going on and I aired my concerns on the show with Amy.
"I confronted them and they said it wasn't true. Amy had such a big following that the whole nation really went against me.
"They thought they were telling the truth and I was made to feel like I was a pathetic girlfriend."
She added: "Me and Amy were never friends. I never knew her before Towie. I don't have her number and I haven't spoken to her since.
"I wouldn't choose a friend like her. I don't think she's a very loyal friend. She's not really my kind of girl."