DEAR MASSI, I have been seeing a guy for 3 years now. We are going to get married later this year.

However he has become really possessive over me. I can't even dress up nicely or have a hair cut without him having a go at me, what can I do? He tells me I do it for other people but I dont.

S Manchester

MASSI SAYS,

You may want to explain to him without getting confrontational that if you are going to get married he needs to stop acting in such a way.

He needs to know that a marriage is based on trust and honesty and if he can't trust you then your marriage will suffer in the end. It is imporant to get these issues sorted out now before you get married otherwise they may cause problems for you later.

You also need to explain to him just because you are getting married things shouldn't change that much. He should understand that whilst you still love him, his actions are upsetting you.